I’ve been thinking a lot about soulmates recently. It seems like everyone these days wants their ‘happily ever after’. We all seem to be searching for that one person who can give us that happy ending, to build a life together, and to give us that connection we all crave so much. But what is a soulmate really?
The idea of soulmates first came out in Plato’s “The Symposium” in 385-370BC. In it, he dramatizes that originally, humans were created with conjoined bodies, having two heads, four arms and legs, and two genetalias (interestingly, these genetalias could be the same ‘type’ attached to one form). However, the humans decided to revolt against the gods to gain more power. Zeus hence punished them by cutting the humans into half, condemning them to spend their whole lives searching for their ‘other half’ in order to become whole again.
This theme of soulmates is also echoed by others. The term ‘soulmate’ was officially formed in 1822 by Samuel Taylor Coleridge, an English Poet.
However, there has also been claims by psychologist and other individuals that say soulmates don’t exist, and that searching for them creates unrealistic expectations and frustration.
So what do I believe?
I think that the idea of a ‘Soulmate’ is real. I see soulmates around me all the time, especially in elderly couples who have spent their whole life together. I look at them, and they look ‘one’ to me, like a team. So yes, I believe in finding someone who is compatible with you in a way that is unmatchable. In the modern times, it’s called ‘chemistry’. It is when you look at another person and think, he/she GETS me. There is this whole new level of connection which is unparalleled with anything which you have ever encountered.
I also think that the term ‘soulmates’ have been romanticized to the point of irrationality. It should not only be confined to the scope of romantic partners. Also, even if one did find their soulmate, it takes a lot of hard work and peseverance to make their relationships work. It is not the happily ever after which the media potrays.
It is great that there has been articles written about how one can find soulmates in friends, family, and other types of relationships which is non-sexual or romantic. Soulmates also exists in any other individual which we can ‘click’ with. If we go through life looking only for romantic soulmates, it will definitely lead to many dissatisfaction. There is also a danger in looking for another person to make us whole.
I also believe in the notion that an individual can have multiple soulmates. This is true also in romantic partners. When things don’t work out with somone, it is gratifying to know that there are others out there who can give the same amount of connection. It softens the blow of hopelessness and doubt.
Also, to me finding a soulmate is not easy, and it is never meant to be easy. It takes a lot of trial and error, and meeting wrong social matches in order to get a right. But with perseverance, hope, and courage, we will find our soulmate.
So dear reader, if you are looking for a soulmate, I sincerely hope you find yours. Have faith and keep looking! 🙂